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It can be difficult and awkward to refuse a person. You don't want to break his heart with careless words, and at the same time not give him vain hopes.
You've been on one or more dates and realized you're not too interested in the next meetings. How to explain this to a guy or a man politely without permanently breaking off the connection and without offending him?
It is important to be honest in matters of heart, but at the same time try to be tactful.
Fortunately, there are several beautiful ways to say no to a guy beautifully.
You can use ready-made phrases or change them as you like, as well as listen to a few psychological tips.
How to properly deny a man a relationship
1. I'm not ready yet
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This is a great way to say no to a man politely because you'll shift the focus to yourself instead of him.
It's important for the other person to know that it's not about him, especially if he's a nice guy and you want to keep in touch.
This message is also suitable for those who have not yet decided.
Hi, *name*! I really enjoyed spending time with you on our first date, but I need to tell you something.
I want you to know that I'm not ready for a relationship or anything serious yet, and I think it would be wise to stop dating for a while.
I need to understand myself and that's why I can't keep seeing you. As soon as things change, I'll let you know.
2. I now want to focus on my study/work
If you're currently busy with other things and don't have time for dates and relationships, you should emphasize this and explain why.
This will show the person that you are polite and you care about other people's time and feelings.
Hi, *name*! I hate to disappoint you, but I think you deserve to know that I can't date anyone right now.
I'm sorry to have to say this, but school/work is very important to me and I don't have enough time for anything else.
I don't want to waste your time so I'm telling you this in advance. I hope you'll understand.
3. It's not about you, it's about me
Hi, *name*! The problem isn't you, it's me. I'm in trouble right now and I don't want to be in a relationship because I'm not ready for it yet.
4. We're similar but still different
*Name*, you and I are very different, but I think it would be great if we could share our hobbies, even if we can't be a couple.
It's so cool that we both love it… I really don't want to give up our friendship and our interests.
5. I'm not the girl you want
This is a great way to tell the other person that rejection is about you and not about the man.
Such a message will be easier and more memorable, and most importantly, honest.
I've been thinking about telling you for days now, and every time I got up the courage, something stopped me.
I'll try to be as firm as possible. I just want you to know I'm not the girl you want.
At times I can be demanding or intrusive, or I can worry too much about nothing. Sometimes I can't control myself or I act thoughtlessly.
I think you should know this before things get serious between us.
You might not understand me right now, but trust me, you'll thank me again for that.
6. I don't think we're right for each other
There might be a situation where you meet a man who is your opposite, and if that happens, you don't have to pretend you're happy with everything if it's not .
This phrase is objective and expresses your personal opinion. No one can blame you for this.
Hi, *name*! Lately, I've been thinking about us a lot and I've come to the conclusion that we're not very suitable for each other.
I'm into rock and you're into classical music. I'm an introvert and you're an extrovert.
There are a lot of other things that have made me understand that you and I are opposites. I think you deserve to know what I think about everything because I don't want to give you false hope.
7. Deeds, deeds…
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If deeds or obligations are the reason for a man's refusal, but you are ready to spend time with a person at some point in the future, it's important to say so.
You're a really cool guy, *name*, but to be honest, I'm currently thinking about all the things I need to complete by the end of the month, and I'm afraid I don't even have enough time for myself.
Unfortunately, I only have an hour or two of free time in the evening when I can only turn on the TV and try to stay awake right away.
It's a shame we didn't meet sooner or sometime in the future when I have more free time, but that's the way things are right now.
8. I'm heartbroken
It can be difficult for all of us to go through breakups, and sometimes we need to be alone for a while before entering into another relationship.
Also, the other person deserves to know the truth if they have romantic feelings for you.
I want to tell you that I really enjoyed your time with you, but there are a few things you need to know about me.
I'm not ready for a relationship because I need more time to recover from a previous breakup.
I could date you without saying anything, but that wouldn't be fair.
9. I'm only interested in friendship
This phrase says it all.
Hi, *name*. I wanted to tell you this sooner but wasn't so sure.
The thing is, I really like you as a person and I would love to be friends with you, but nothing more.
Actually, I think we could be good friends, but if it's hard for you, I'll understand and respect your decision.
10. No chemistry or attraction
If you feel a lack of attraction to a person, this is a warning sign that this is not your potential partner.
Read also: “I won't give it!” , or how to deny sex to your boyfriend
*Name*, you're a great person and I'm sure you know that. You're kind, you're supportive, and you're fun to be around.
However, there is no chemistry between us, which is very important for relationships. It would be nice if we could stay friends.
11. I'm already meeting someone else
Remember to always tell a man if you're already dating someone, because if you don't, you risk getting into an awkward situation, let alone a broken heart.
I think you're a good person and I'll be honest with you: I'm already meeting someone else. However, we can keep in touch.
I'm telling you this because I don't want to play games with you. I respect you and I think you deserve to know the truth.
12. I don't feel the same
When you tell them you don't feel the same way they feel about another person, you're letting them know that things are not what they think they are.
Sometimes people tend to think up or misunderstand signs, so it's important to say what's really going on.
You're a really nice guy and I enjoyed talking to you and spending time with you, but I need to tell you I don't feel the way you feel about me.
Rather, I treat you like my brother/friend and you should be aware of this to avoid disappointment or an awkward situation.
How to refuse a guy to meet, date or intimacy
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13. I'm leaving
Hi, *name*. I'm going on a trip tomorrow (next week) and while I don't mind keeping in touch, I'm afraid I'll be too busy to date.
As much as I'd love to spend time together, it's going to be difficult to do that with my schedule. I hope you understand my situation.
14. I'm crazy
*Name*, I'm sorry to tell you that, but you're not likely to like me when you get to know me better. Do you know why? Because I'm crazy and I do crazy things sometimes. Trust me, you're not going to feel comfortable around me.
I think we can stay friends. I don't want to give up my friendship with a good person like you.
15. Strict
parents*Name* you're a great guy and I'm sure the other girl will be proud of you. However, I'm not ready for a relationship right now. My parents are strict and they want me to focus on my studies.
16. You're going to find another girl
*Name*, you're smart, you're caring, and I love all those qualities about you. But I have my own life and I don't want to be in a relationship right now.
I'm sure there are a lot of girls out there who would want to date a man like you. I just don't think we'd make a good couple.
17. Unbalanced brother
I hate to scare you, but my brother is actually unbalanced and he won't like it if I start dating.
He's trying to protect me and he doesn't want to ruin our friendship, and the truth is, you know we're both not ready for a romantic relationship.
18. I'm sad
*Name*, I'm disappointed with your offer. Not because I don't like you, but because I'm not ready for a relationship right now. Can we be friends after this?
19. Let me be clear
Hi, *name*, of course I'm taking a risk, but I want to say that I enjoyed talking to you. However, I don't think I'm ready to go to the next level. Let me be clear: Can we be friends?
20. You'll be better off without me
Hi, *name*, I want to tell you that I appreciate your offer. However, I think you're better off without me because… and I don't think I'll be able to reciprocate you. I hope you can understand me.