Culture
Looking for an answer to the question “How to be happy?” , we often come across a recommendation to “just be yourself”. Popular magazines, friends, and parents give this advice.
This is partly true: psychologists associate happiness with natural, relaxed behavior. However, sometimes you don't have to be yourself to be happy. For example, at work. This conclusion was made by a group of researchers from the University of Greenwich and the University of Houston.
Scientists led by Oliver Robinson conducted an online survey of 533 employees. Volunteers were asked where and with whom they behave most naturally. For example, they were asked to rate the veracity of various statements, such as “I think being yourself is more important than being popular,” or to end statements like “I can talk about myself the innermost…”
In general, most respondents said that they behave most naturally with their loved ones. Friends and parents came in second place. Also, the majority of respondents admitted that they have the least natural behavior at work.
In addition, respondents filled out questionnaires aimed at finding out about the psychological well-being and life satisfaction of volunteers. It turned out that openness and naturalness with loved ones contribute to happiness, but the same qualities at work do not bring a sense of satisfaction with life and oneself.
As a result, scientists have come to the conclusion that the most important thing for a person is to be himself with his other half.
“If someone asks me, 'Do I have to be myself at work to be happy'? I'll say “Not necessary,” says Dr. Robinson.