Useful tips
In dreams, we can do almost whatever we want, because in this world only our mind determines the limits of what is permissible. Vivid and memorable dreams sometimes allow us not only to better understand ourselves, but also to fulfill our most secret desires.
Moreover, such dreams can complement our real life experience, since everything that happens in a dream is sometimes recorded by our brain as absolutely real events. Erotic dreams are one of the great ways to satisfy our sexual needs (and also quite natural and healthy).
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Scientific research has shown that the orgasm experienced by both women and men during so-called lucid dreaming is an absolutely real orgasm that we experience in the moment of actual sexual intercourse. Such an orgasm is accompanied by real body reactions — muscle contractions, an increased heart rate, and a reaction of vascular tissues.
But that's not all: if you manage to properly tune your brain, you can invite almost anyone to your bedroom (in a dream, of course). Do you want to experience the most pleasant sensations in a dream that are in no way inferior to real ones? In this case, you should regularly follow a few important tips and learn useful practices that you will now learn about.
Erotic dreams
Habitual sleep patterns contribute to sexual dreams
Create a sensual sleeping environment
Try to answer the following question yourself (especially since the answer is obvious): what is the best way to encourage your mind to create an erotic dream? Maybe an awkward old sofa, a barbed blanket, or worn flannel pajamas with holes?
Or the sensual touch of silk sheets on the naked body? The answer is obvious, of course. Of course, silk bed linen and the absence of pajamas or nightgowns on your body do not guarantee that you will definitely have an erotic dream today.
However, the feeling of freedom in sleep, getting rid of all conventions, will undoubtedly serve as a good basis for your mind to push your thoughts towards the very sensual dreams about which you're dreaming. Not to mention a comfortable mattress.
Take the right stance
One study published in the American Psychological Association's Dreaming suggests that the particular position we choose to sleep , clearly increases the likelihood of erotic dreams.
Researchers have found that people who sleep on their stomachs with their arms half-bent at head level are more likely to have sexual dreams than those who are used to fall asleep, so to speak, in classic poses — on your back or on your side.
Turn off all electronic devices before going to bed
Turn off your cell phone, laptop, or any other electronic device that might distract your attention. Do this at least an hour before you go to the realm of Morpheus. And even more so, it is not good to use them in the bedroom while directly in bed.
The results of a study by the American National Sleep Foundation show that most people in the modern world are used to watching TV before going to bed or “poking around” on your laptops and smartphones.
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The light emitted by the screens of our electronic devices can ruin our sleep all night, having a negative impact on our sleep patterns. Instead of staring at your computer or smartphone screens just before going to bed, it's better to devote some time to some useful practices that you'll learn about a little later.
Don't masturbate for a few days
Frankly speaking, many people, regardless of gender, periodically masturbate. Of course, if you have a regular sexual partner, then most likely you don't need to satisfy your sexual needs in this way.
On the other hand, if you have such a partner, then why would you even try to set your mind up for erotic dreams? So, if you really want to see vivid and sensual dreams with sexual content, don't masturbate for a few days.
If you give up this form of self-satisfaction of sexual needs for a certain period of time, the chances that you will have an erotic dream will increase. So, try to control yourself (figuratively!) some time for your body to feel the need to release sexual energy, which can be realized through dreams.
Lucid dreams: learning to control and model our dreams
What is lucid dreaming? In fact, this is a state of consciousness (also called altered), in which a sleeping person is not only aware that he is dreaming, but is also able to control his dreams, changing their content.
The ability to “refine” a dream according to your own understanding gives you the very fact of realizing that you are in a dream. There are many effective methods that allow you to induce lucid dreams that have proven to be highly effective in practice.
For example, you can keep a diary of your own dreams; take dietary supplements that help your body release a substance such as acetylcholine (the main parasympathetic neurotransmitter nervous system). However, some clarification is required here.
As you know, acetylcholine plays a key role in processes such as falling asleep and waking up. Low levels of this substance reduce the activity of certain neurons
in relevant parts of the brain, having a negative effect on human memory.
However, in order to start taking dietary supplements containing acetylcholine compounds, certain medical indications are necessary. But you can also naturally increase the level of this substance if your diet regularly includes foods such as omega-3 sources, fresh vegetables, broccoli, lettuce, grains, nuts and seeds, berries and chocolate.
It is also necessary to naturally increase the body's melatonin content, a low level of which can be indicated by problems falling asleep. This main hormone of the pineal gland (the endocrine gland that synthesizes hormones) regulates so-called circadian rhythms (cycles associated with various biological processes).
The need to take medications with melatonin may be indicated by problems with falling asleep, for example, due to sudden changes in time zones. In addition, the foods already listed above will help increase melatonin levels naturally. You should also add bananas and ginger root to them.
In addition, meditation or some other relaxation practices are very useful to encourage lucid dreams. There are other natural ways to induce lucid dreams that you can learn about from outside sources.
Lucid dreams significantly increase our sensitivity and the brightness of orgasm, which become comparable in strength to the sensations we experience in reality. It is not surprising that people who have learned to induce lucid dreams find it easier to generate erotic dreams.
Sex dreams
Learn to visualize your sexual partner before falling asleep
Try to create in your mind an image of your sexual partner as vivid and clear as possible (at least an image of the person you would like to see in your dream in as a sexual partner). You can even write down that person's main features, or if talent allows, try to draw him.
The more vividly you can visualize your partner, as well as the sleep scenario involving him (including the smallest details), the more likely you are to be able to “provoke” a lucid dream and the appropriate sexual plot of your dream.
In order to achieve a better result, it is advisable to visualize a person with whom you have already had sexual intercourse. This will have a more powerful effect on your subconscious mind as you incorporate images from your real life.
Do not close your eyes, clench your fists and try to frantically recall the smallest details and features. On the contrary, it is recommended to completely relax, allowing your brain to penetrate into the depths of your memory without stress in order to “extract” all the necessary details from there.
Such details can be, for example, the smell of your partner, his voice, the sensation of touching the naked body. Once the image of your sexual partner is very clear in your mind, it will be a clear signal to your brain that you are ready to enter the lucid dreaming stage that gives the ability to take control of the events that take place in a dream.
Learn to visualize a suitable sleeping location
The dream location itself is not so important. In a lucid dream, you have the opportunity to go wherever your imagination wants — to some real place or to an imaginary one. Relatively speaking, you can experience sexual sensations in a dream while sailing the sea on a yacht.
Why not? However, to create an erotic dream, it is extremely important to clearly visualize the place you would like to see in your dream before you make love with your partner when you fall asleep. Decide in advance exactly where you would like to be with him.
Once in a lucid dream, give yourself some time to explore the place around you. This should be done before you turn your attention to your sexual partner. Moreover, sometimes trying to immediately visualize in your dream the person you would like to make love with may not lead to anything.
It would be more appropriate if you, in order to make your dream even more stable and controllable, give your partner some time to “be in the shadow” of your fantastic landscape (or any other dream environment). Try, for example, to visualize the door through which your partner is about to enter the room.
Do not try to force the events that take place in a dream. Before you evoke an image of your partner in your dream, you should make sure that you yourself feel comfortable enough in the sleeping environment without feeling awkward realizing the very fact that you are in sleep.
Don't focus on preliminary love caresses
This is in real life, when our consciousness is stable and as controlled as possible, preliminary love caresses are the most important component of almost any sexual contact.
Unlike in real life, the feeling of extreme arousal you feel in your sleep can easily disturb your sleep balance, after which you wake up right away. And this is not some science fiction from the movie “Inception” — everyone who has ever experienced something like this clearly understands what we are talking about.
Even people who are experienced in creating lucid dreams cannot maintain this state for more than six to ten minutes. As rude as it sounds, you should use this limited amount of time to have sex with your partner. For example, try to visualize your partner naked so you don't waste precious time undressing later.
Keep calm
The moment when you suddenly realize that you are in a state of lucid dreaming is crucial. When you experience such an experience for the first time in your life, you may experience a semblance of shock, which will surely “knock” you out of sleep.
So try to calm down — strong feelings in this matter can only do harm. Explore your surroundings in peace. You need to “stabilize” your consciousness inside a dream before you start trying to implement a planned scenario in it.
It is extremely important to trust yourself when you feel absolutely confident that you have the strength to become the architect of your own sleep. Make sure there's nothing in your sleep that could harm you. After all, you don't want to wake up at the most interesting moment of having sex, do you? Learn basic skills to control your lucid dreams.
How to have sex while sleeping
Learn the technique of preserving the integrity of lucid dreaming
The difficulty many newcomers to lucid dreaming face is that they can't keep them awake (sorry for the tautology!) the fact of being in such an unusual dream until the most important moment.
Erotic dreams are highly stimulating, so many people are “thrown out” of such a dream before they can get closer to their goal. To prevent this from happening, you should use the following tips — they are especially useful when you feel that you are losing control over your sleep and it is starting to break down.
Look at the palm of your hands
When your lucid dreaming begins to fall apart, you'll feel like your mind just doesn't have anything to cling to when you're dreaming. You're about to be “thrown off the stage”. To avoid this, it is necessary to “cling” to something that is real; something that is most likely not threatened by a physical change in sleep (although this is not always the case!).
At a point like this, just bring your hands to your eyes and just start exploring every detail on your palms. This practice will help you stabilize your dreams while maintaining your sleep state itself. At this point, you need to calm down, trying to look as closely as possible at the bend of each line on your palms. The better you do it, the “cleaner” your dream will be.
Try to “gain a foothold” in sleep as part of sleep
This method also applies to the practice of visualization. It is so powerful and effective that if you learn how to do it, it will not be so easy to “kick” you out of a lucid dream. It consists in the fact that you should feel part of your dream, and then “grab hold” of this feeling.
In other words, you need to “gain a foothold” in your dream, become part of the location if you want. This technique must be combined with the previous one — with a detailed study of your palms. You can even give yourself verbal commands: “Look at the palm of your hand,” “Stabilize your mind,” and so on.
Grab hold of something
If you feel that you are no longer in control of your dream, you need to grab hold of something. People who often have erotic dreams say they tried to frantically grab their partner at such moments. However, intense arousal can prevent you from maintaining stable sleep.
Better try to grab hold of a chair you see in your dream with both hands; you can grab hold of the headboard, the tree, your clothes, after all (if you have them in yours) a dream).
The fact that you not only see an object in your dream, but also physically touch it can keep you awake. Also, take some time to study the object you grabbed in your sleep. You can combine this technique with other methods, giving yourself verbal commands as well.
Try to scroll in your sleep
This method should be used if you feel that other methods are not working. This is extremely useful if you start to lose control over your sleep, unable to study your hands or grab hold of anything.
Let's look at this method as an example. Let's say your dream begins to become fuzzy, as if it were blurred. Or you even found yourself in your dream in absolute darkness. In this case, try to slowly scroll through your sleep as if you were, for example, skating.
However, this rotation of the body must be short and controlled, otherwise you may be “transferred” to another dream or even “thrown out” from sleep. You are very likely to wake up. But if you manage to “survive” in a dream, you can again begin to visualize the situation and the plot of the dream.
Become the architect of your own sleep
And now the most important thing: in order to become the architect of your own dreams, you need to learn to control your thoughts in real life. Answer the question: when you are awake, how often do you feel as if you are somewhere far away, hovering in the clouds?
This is the problem of modern man — many simply do not sufficiently feel the effect of their full presence where they are. For example, while at work, you may dream about how you will spend your vacation or how you will relax for the next weekend.
However, when you get the opportunity to go somewhere on vacation, you can't help but think about work; you constantly remember that you didn't have time to finish your vacation; or you just can't stop making plans for what you will do after your vacation.
It is possible to get rid of this bad habit, which we often attribute to ordinary inattention or fatigue, through various meditative practices.
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Try to do everything you do — work or relax — consciously. Be where you really are, here and now; don't let your thoughts take you to another reality. After all, you are a generator, not a product of your own thoughts, which can sometimes take you to nowhere.
As paradoxical as it may sound, learning not to soar in the clouds, but to actually stay awake during the day, is the basis that will help you learn how to induce lucid dreams during the night. And not only erotic in nature!